My last post was about love or rather how my friends and I debated about how to love. I asked my partner if she thinks  whether or not loving should be done with the mind or with the heart. She said loving should be both done with mind and heart -- that loving is like kite flying.

Loving only with the heart, it's like flying a kite with minimal or no interest in properly controlling the string attached to it. The kite flies quite nicely on good winds. But when the winds turn tumultuos, there is a risk of crashing the kite thus destroying it. My best real world application of this analogy is quite common. A young couple start falling in love. The first few months feel like bliss as they gradually get to know each other (this is the kite flying on good, pleasant winds). Then after some years pass, they explore too much leading to situations that can wreck their love e.g. pre-marital sex leading to unwanted pregnancy (this is the kite in tumultuos winds and no effort is done to control or steer it to a better direction).

Likewise, loving solely with the mind is like having too much thought (mind) on how the string should be handled. The kite is flying pleasantly but since there is too much fear (or paranoia) of losing it, the string is not given some slack so as to make the kite soar higher. Well, my best real world application of this would be lovers who break up because of stiffling situations. Either party is too jealous that their paranoia causes them to choke each other because they don't give each other alone time for fear of losing the other. Or something like that.

I hope that these made some sense. Feel free to comment below on what your thoughts are.

I have a friend who was recently dumped by her boyfriend. And as it happened on a Friday, she asked us, her project mates, if we could go out with her after work. As in any typical Pinoy setting, it's either videoke or drinking. But as in any typical Pinoy setting, usually it ends up being both.

So we went to the closest videoke bar and drank and got not-so-totally wasted. The friend cried as others in the group were singing songs; songs of woe mostly. So there was 1 person crying while 9 were singing. The management shooed us out of the bar at around 2:30am, saying they're closing in 30 mins. So we continued drinking outside. And that's where the title of this post found it's inspiration.

LOVE - Mind or Heart?

Some of our companions were pretty drunk by this time. So a mini-debate flared between 2 groups: those who believed loving through the mind and those who believed loving through the heart. I don't know if I nailed that quite right so I'll use an example used during that mini-debate.

Scenario: A husband stabs his wife in the stomach. The group was then asked to fill the shoes of the wife and ask the husband a question. We arrived to 2 reponses to the situation: (1) those who believed loving through the mind would ask the husband why he stabbed me while (2) those who believed loving through the heart would ask the husband why he has a bloodied hand.

I prefer the 1st response, as I lean towards the loving through the mind thing but I think is a little bit of both (or maybe 75% mind, 25% heart). How about you? Which side will you take? Mind or heart?

It's always easy to attribute regret to something negative. Things like "I regret to inform you but you suck and our company cannot possibly find a job position for your close-to-nil intelligence" or "I regret not taking that enticing option to kiss ass and get promoted so now I'm licking puss-filled wounds for a living" and other similar stuff like that. Regret happens when we don't do something we thought to have done which would have probably made life better. Regret happens when we don't get what we want knowing that there was something we could have done to get it. Regret (usually) happens with a DON'T.

Regret can also happen when we DO. People in relationships may get into a point where they wished there was a way to get out of it (even though they thought that being in a relationship was a logical, happy choice at that time when they were still single and not in a relationship). Or people in a relationship and decided that getting married is the next logical, happy step but after a few years wish they each were free (and bondless) from the other.

Nota Bene. This rather pointless and incoherent post was provoked by a friend's question asking for advice on what I could decipher as a possible career change. He implied that he might be regretful if he didn't take the opportunity. I told him you will be regretful regardless whether your decision is yeah or nah. All in all, this is just for the sake of writing.

I visited the forums earlier and found this rather amusing.

I wasn't even born yet! Hehe.

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The holidays are fast approaching. For whatever spare time I may have, I'll try to create a custom theme for this blog. Tabulas already has great minimalist themes available. But when too many use the same theme then a blog will look generic; losing its individuality and identity. Although only second to content with regard to acquiring readership, having a decent blog theme helps entice possible readers and subscribers to your blog.

I am not a web designer (although I've always wanted to be one). I know theming is challenging but doable. Right now, I only have vague ideas on the design. But I like minimalism so I intend to keep my custom theme like so.